‘You Had the Power All Along My Dear’

The inspiration for this article are words of an amazing woman, Marie Curie, who once said ‘Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.’ During my working life I have seen some amazing women achieve great things in their career, family life or both but due to some events they lost their confidence and (to them) all those achievements seem inadequate. Those amazing women stopped shining and spreading their amazing-ness to others. Studies show that females, more than males, can experience loss of confidence in themselves. Thus I know that many of us can relate to that.

Power to you

Now, think about how powerful you are. Find one or two things that you could do now, that would show you your power. You might have said you have power over your career choices or relationships. But would you say that you have power over what is going to happen to you in the future? Start thinking about the power that you have over your
life. Jim Rohn once said “You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.”

If a flood was going to destroy your lovely house today, it is up to you what you would do with what is left. You will either rebuild the house with the improved layout (as you always dreamed of) or you will never move on from the tragedy that destroyed your life. The house can represent anything from a career to a relationship, and the flood represents a loss.

Wherever you are reading this piece, in the kitchen or in the office, you have the power to get up and leave, you have the power to stop reading, so why would it be any different with your thoughts? You have power over them, and it doesn’t matter how emotionally charged they are. Use them or lose them but don’t keep them and don’t ponder over them. Life is too short for that and you are too amazing to waste your time on something that’s not going to change your life for the better.

Action point: Love your body, care for your mind.

Self-confidence as well as self-esteem are both learned, not inherited. So lack of confidence does not have to be permanent. Below are some suggestions for how you can begin to work on becoming more confident.

• Set goals on the basis of what you canrealistically achieve, and then work step-by- step to develop your potential. Remember the words of Marie Curie, ‘(…) we must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.’

• Emphasize your strengths. Focus on what you can do rather than what you cannot. By doing that you are showing yourself that you care about yourself as much as you care about others.

• Think about your daily, weekly and monthly routines. Identify one thing that you do during the day that you don’t like/need and would like to change. Replace it with something that you would like to do e.g. if you would like to stop
wasting time watching TV why not replace it with reading books (relaxation/increasing your knowledge). Think how confident you would feel after achieving this change.

• Confidence starts from within but it needs a good home. Invest in your body and mind every day, this is vital for keeping your confidence rocket high.

• Learn how to self-massage and add this to your wellbeing routine. Use your favourite oil mixture or simply start with coconut oil. Self-massage offers an opportunity for you to connect deeply with your body, and to nourish your body.

I have noticed when observing my clients that the more comfortable they become with their bodies, the more relaxed and confident they are. When we feel confident within ourselves we can notice our needs and take better care of ourselves. All of this helps us connect with our inner self and to grow as a person.

Magdalena Lorynska

Wellness In Motion

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